At Home and Abroad: Family Members' Military Service in WWII

With thoughts of the upcoming Memorial Day holiday on my mind, I asked Grandma Ella if there were any ancestors in our family who served in World War II (1939-1945). Why yes! Two uncles and two aunts, siblings of her father George Findlay (1903-1970).

George Findlay's youngest brother, John Heatherwick Findlay (1921-1999), who was always fondly called "Jack", served in the British Army stationed in Burma. He was aged 18-24 during the war. He left for the war by boat, and returned home by airplane. Upon his arrival home, he presented a most-exotic surprise to the family from his travels abroad...bananas! Young Ella had never seen such a treat before.

George Findlay's brother that was just younger than him, Alexander Love Findlay ("Alex") (1906-1960) also served in the British Army. He would have been aged 33-40 years old. Perhaps stationed in England? Grandma isn't sure.

Two of George Findlay's younger sisters (he was the oldest of 11 children) - Elizabeth Love Findlay ("Lizzie") (1917-1991) and Marjorie Love Findlay ("Madge") (1925-1994) - served in the Auxiliary Territorial Service (ATS). This was the women's branch of the British Army during World War II, which women between between the ages of 17 and 43 could join.
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Women were barred from serving in battle, but due to shortages of men, ATS members, as well as members of the other women's voluntary services, took over many support tasks, such as radar and searchlight operators, forming part of the crews of anti-aircraft guns and military police. ATS members also served as clerks, cooks, telephonists and waitresses. (Source)

Both Lizzie and Madge served in England (some ATS members served abroad), and Ella's not sure what role they had - perhaps as telephonists? Lizzie would have been aged 22-28 during the war; Madge as 14-20 (because of the age restriction, she must have joined after age 17, at least halfway through the war).

And we can't overlook Ella's father, George Findlay, and his contribution to the war efforts. As a shipwright (ship's carpenter) in Aberdeen, he helped to repair the fishing trawler boats that had been damaged by the mines that the Germans planted in the waters off the coast. Fish was such a staple of the local diet that this job was critical to the general welfare of the population.

Source: From a telephone conversation with Ella, recorded 18 May 2014.

History Lesson: Robert the Bruce's Heart, Togetherness, and the Family Today

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For our most recent family reunion in 2013 as well as for the last one held in 2002, Ralph and Ella had shirts designed with an image of a heart surrounded with the inscription "Togetherness is a wonderful place to be." In fact, Ralph is wearing the shirt in this video!

What is the significance of the emblem of the heart? This is actually a mini history lesson.

Before King Robert the Bruce (Ella's 20th great grandfather) died in 1329,he asked that his heart be removed and taken on the Crusades by his closest friend James Douglas, since he hadn't been able to fight in the Crusades himself. Just before Douglas was killed in Moorish Spain, he hurled it at the enemy, supposedly shouting, “Lead on brave heart, I'll follow thee!” before being killed. Douglas' corpse and the casket containing Bruce's heart were returned to Scotland in 1331, and Bruce's heart was taken back to Melrose Abbey where it was buried. 

Archaeologists located the heart in 1920, and they gave it a second burial in a new modern container, but they failed to mark the location of the site. In 1996, it was rediscovered then buried again in a formal ceremony in 1998.

The new burial includes a stone plaque to mark the site, featuring an inscription from Scottish poet John Barbour's "The Brus" which reads: "A noble hart may have no ease, gif freedom failye" Translated, this means: "A noble heart cannot be at peace without freedom." The plaque incorporates a carving of a heart entwined in the Saltire, the basis of Scotland's national flag.

What is the significance of the phrase "Together is a wonderful place to be"? It's all about family - generations past, present, and future.



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Sources:
  • Ralph filmed July 2013.
  • The above written info is mostly plagiarized from these sources: Source 1, Source 2, Source 3

The Ancestor Wall

Have you ever wondered who those strong and stalwart looking individuals are in that beautiful photo collage in Ella's living room? Here, Ella shares the names to the extensive display of faces on the "Ancestor Wall." 



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Source: Filmed at Ralph and Ella's home, 28 July 2013.
Note: At about 2:13 in the video, Ella mentions that Robert and Wilhilmina are her great grandparents, but then inadvertently said that Wilhilmina was Robert's mother (instead of his wife) and Mary Young his wife (rather than being his mother). Considering all the names and relationships she was remembering on the spot, it's understandable that someone might get mixed up!

The Sky's the Limit!

Ralph with granddaughter AG, whom he taught to fly.
Date? (Late '90s)
Sometimes it seems as though Ralph was born flying, that he came down to earth and into his mother's arms via a helicopter rather than a stork. Hah! After all, all of the professions I've known him to have have all been related to flying in some way.

But where did his interest in flying first begin, and then grow into a lifelong passion? He answered this question for me recently (recorded in this video interview), but he also shared this story with a columnist of the Deseret News, Cathy Free, who published the details in an article online on Wednesday, June 16, 2010. She published the following:

BOUNTIFUL — On a lazy, hot summer day in 1946, there was only one place for a bored 12-year-old to hang out in Mesa, Ariz. Sitting in the shade, sipping a strawberry soda, Ralph Mitchell whiled away the heat of the day watching small planes do "touch and goes" on a dirt landing strip at the old town dump. Scattered with shards of broken glass, the runway shimmered in the late afternoon sun, as though paved with silver dollars.

Mitchell, who lived just a few blocks from the new flight school, opened by World War II veterans looking for some fun, wondered what it would be like to soar over the red bluffs and green fields of his hometown.

While daydreaming one day, he was startled to hear a gruff voice: "Hey, kid — you want a ride?"

Mitchell looked around. "Me?"

"Sure, kid. If you'll pick up a tub full of glass off the runway, I'll take you up. Deal?"

"You bet!"

Mitchell raced home, fetched his mom's old washtub and spent a couple of hours scooping up glass, dodging airplanes and waving at the pilots.

"When I was done, sure enough, he took me up for my first flight," he recalls today. "My eyes were like saucers the entire time. I was thinking, 'This has got to be it. There's just nothing better than this.' "

That brief flight changed his life, says Mitchell, giving him a goal and a sense of purpose that he didn't have before. In his early 20s, he went to flight school and received his pilot's license, then spent the next 50 years teaching other daydreamers how to fly.

Now 76, you'll find him at the Sky Park Airport in Woods Cross several days a week, helping everyone from teenagers to grandmothers take off and land with confidence.

Hoping to share how soaring through bright skies in a twin-engine plane can impact somebody's life, Mitchell wanted to meet for a Free Lunch of Asian chicken salads at Applebee's, not far from his home and his favorite runway.

Removing his "Top Gun" fishing hat, he slides into the booth and grins. "People like to see a pilot with gray hair," he says, "especially my wife. When we fly anywhere, she peeks into the cockpit if she can to make sure the pilot's hair is gray."

Mitchell's own hair — what's left of it — is white, which some might conclude turned that way from years of turning the controls over to new pilots who are decades away from retirement.

But Mitchell doesn't see it that way.

"This sounds crazy, but I love to see the look on a person's face when they discover they can fly," he says. "When I see a pilot solo, I realize everything that person knows is what I've taught them. That's a good feeling but humbling, too. You think, 'Did I give them everything they need?' "

His students, including one of his granddaughters, would surely say, "yes." Mitchell recalls showing up as a substitute Sunday school teacher years ago in Renton, Wash., where he had a job selling helicopters. The 13-year-old boys in the class were determined to give him a bad time, "so I said, 'Look, if we can get through the lesson, we'll do some ground school," he says.

Ground school? The boys fell silent. If Mitchell could give them ground lessons, then perhaps some time in the air might follow.

It did. A few weeks later, Mitchell took them all flying, and for one boy in particular, it was a life-changing moment. Years later, after Mitchell had moved to Utah, he heard somebody call out his name in an air hangar. A tall young man with blond hair rushed forward.

"You might not remember me, but I remember you," he told Mitchell. "My name is Rod Tiede — one of those rowdy Sunday school kids you took flying. That day was the best day of my life. Today, I'm a corporate pilot."

Mitchell finishes his salad and grins. "That right there is why it's all worth it," he says. "It's not necessarily the destination that's important — it's the way that you get there. And there's no better way to get from Point A to Point B than to fly."

Ralph and Ella - Growing Up, Courtship, and Grandpa Learns to Fly

Here are Ralph and Ella, talking about their growing up years, courtship, their families, young married life, and how Grandpa first fell in love with flying. Try to imagine yourself sitting at the table as well - have a second helping of dessert, too!



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Source: Filmed at Ralph and Ella's home, 9 Feb 2014. Interviewed by KF, JR, and BR. 

Why Do Family History? Because It's the Stories That Bind Us

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"If you want a happier family, create, refine and retell the story of your family’s positive moments and your ability to bounce back from the difficult ones. That act alone may increase the odds that your family will thrive for many generations to come." (1)

This past year, we started a new tradition in our family: For each family member's birthday, I plaster a wall in our kitchen with photos of that family member ... photos of them doing things they enjoy, photos of them with friends or family, vacations, and us in front of meaningful places and meaningful events.

My objective in doing this is to celebrate that family member, to let them visually see that they are SO loved and valued by friends and family, near and far. And also, to let them know that they are part of something bigger as they learn insights into who their family is and where they're from.

This effort is part sentimental, part my desire to create lasting traditions with my young family, but it was also inspired by several articles I've read recently about the importance of family history and family stories.

Check just two of these headlines:


What's the common theme among these articles? What is the research showing about family stories? That Children who grow up knowing details of their family history have higher self esteem, greater coping skills, and are happier. Sign me up!

What is it about knowing family stories that can have such a hugely positive effect on a child's development of self?

Let's define what we mean by "family stories" and then explore what is it about knowing family stories that can have such a hugely positive effect on a child's development of self?

These stories can be as simple as sharing memories from when you were growing up. Or stories you share with your child from when they were young, before they can remember. Or it can be things that tie you together, like genetic similarities. It's traditions. It's sentences that start with "Remember that time we... [fill in the blank]."

Or these can be grander stories - such as major struggles, stories of tragedy and loss, and how you overcame it all. An immigrant story.These stories tell children about who they are and where they came from.

Psychologists from Emory University developed a scale of 20 questions to assess how much teens knew about their family history, and in the summer of 2001 they asked these questions to four dozen families.

The types of questions on this scale are pretty simple in nature, but these are things that would have happened before they were born, so the children would have been told, or read, or learned these details from another indirect source.  For example:

  • Do you know where your parents grew up?
  • Do you know where your parents met?
  • Do you know the story behind how you got your name?
  • Do you know some of the lessons that your parents learned from good or bad experiences?

The psychologists behind this study were overwhelmed with the results: The more the teens knew about their family's history, the more they exhibited a host of positive outcomes,including greater self-esteem, a stronger belief that they can positively influence their future, fewer behavioral problems, more resilience in the face of hardship, better academic performance, and better relationships with their parents.

The research shows that family stories help shape a person's identity and are a predictor of their emotional health and happiness.

So what is it about knowing family stories that can have such a positive effect? It's not simply knowing the answers to the questions on that survey.

It's the process by which these things come to be known, not the content that is the critical factor. It's talking and listening. It's regularly spending time together over a period of many years ... at family dinners, vacations, holiday gatherings, etc, and if possible, at gatherings where multiple generations are present. It's a child's sense of being part of  a larger family.

Family stories can inspire us, protect us, and bind us to others. And as one author put it: "If you want a happier family, create, refine and retell the story of your family’s positive moments and your ability to bounce back from the difficult ones. That act alone may increase the odds that your family will thrive for many generations to come." (2)

And what if you don't have children of your own? Learn these family stories for your own sake. Or share with siblings, cousins, nieces and nephews. Only positive things can come from it!


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Notes:
  1. Feiler, Bruce. "The Stories That Bind Us." The New York Times. The New York Times, 16 Mar. 2013. Web. 9 May 2014.
  2. Ibid.