Tasty Traditions: Pretzel-M&M-Hugs

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So simple - just pretzels, Hershey's Hugs, and M&M,s - but so tasty!

Ralph and Ella didn't come up with this salty-sweet concoction, but it is often a staple at their holiday gatherings. One year for Christmas, they made a huge batch and packaged them up for family members in little cellophane bags with hand-written tags on them (and I might have eaten most of the bag when no one was looking). 

There are a myriad of recipes online for how to make this, but this recipe caught my eye and I've pasted it below, from a site titled Dessert Now, Dinner Later. (Reminds me of the time we were out to dinner at Marie Calendar's and Ralph ordered dessert first. He loves that story.)

INGREDIENTS
  • 50 Mini Pretzels
  • 50 Hershey's Hugs
  • 50 M&M's red and green Christmas variety

INSTRUCTIONS
  1. Line a baking sheet with a silicone mat, parchment paper, or foil.
  2. Place as many pretzels as you want on the prepared tray.
  3. Unwrap hugs and place one in the center of each pretzel.
  4. Bake at 200 degrees Fahrenheit for 4 to 5 minutes or until the chocolate is soft.
  5. Immediately press an M&M in the center of the melty hug.
  6. Allow chocolate to set back up in the fridge, freezer, or at room temperature.
  7. Once chocolate is set, store Pretzel Hugs in an airtight container or package for gifts.

 

The Sky's the Limit...Continued. Or, "Thank You, Ralph Mitchell"

In a previous blog post, I shared a story of how Ralph offered a ground school lesson and flight time as an incentive for good behavior in a potentially rowdy teenage Sunday school class. His experience was written up for a personal interest story in the Deseret News online. Here's an excerpt:

Mitchell recalls showing up as a substitute Sunday school teacher years ago in Renton, Wash., where he had a job selling helicopters. The 13-year-old boys in the class were determined to give him a bad time, "so I said, 'Look, if we can get through the lesson, we'll do some ground school," he says.


Ground school? The boys fell silent. If Mitchell could give them ground lessons, then perhaps some time in the air might follow.


It did. A few weeks later, Mitchell took them all flying, and for one boy in particular, it was a life-changing moment. Years later, after Mitchell had moved to Utah, he heard somebody call out his name in an air hangar. A tall young man with blond hair rushed forward.


"You might not remember me, but I remember you," he told Mitchell. "My name is Rod Tiede — one of those rowdy Sunday school kids you took flying. That day was the best day of my life. Today, I'm a corporate pilot."



But there's so much more to the story, including a friendship that has continued through the years and a pilot who, every time he flies, says, "Thank you, Ralph Mitchell. Thank you, Ralph Mitchell."


In Ralph's words: 


The reason I got on the Internet: In the newspaper one day, I saw a column written by Cathy Free, she had a little tagline, “If you’ve got an interesting story, call me and I’ll take you to lunch.” …


So I thought why not? I had had an experience in Seattle. When we first moved to Seattle, we moved into Renton, Renton 3rd ward, and they called me to be a substitute Sunday school teacher. I walked into the class that morning, and there was 3 teenage boys. What are they going to do to a substitute Sunday school teacher? They’re going to make short work of him! 


I could see it coming, so I said, “Hey guys, if you’ll sit still and let me finish the lesson, I’ll give you some ground school.” What’s ground school? I said, “I run a flight school over here at Boeing Field flying helicopters and things. I’ll give you the rest of the class time and we’ll do ground school.”


So I told them all about aerodynamics and basic controls and instruments and everything. One of the guys, his eyes were that big [Ralph held his hands out to the side of his head]. He couldn't get enough in his head. I took them for a ride later that week, all three of them, one at a time. 


Now run the clock ahead about 10 to 15 years, I’m selling airplanes here in Salt Lake, I walk through the lobby and I hear my name. “Ralph Mitchell?” I turn around and look, and here’s this big tall kid. I said, “Yeah?” He said, “You probably don’t remember me. I’m RT.” I said, “Yeah, I remember RT, Sunday school class in Renton.” He grabbed my hand and started shaking it. “I want to thank you for changing my life.” I said, “What do you mean?” He said, “I was an undisciplined, unfocused teenager until I saw flying. You took us for a ride. My life changed. I’m now a corporate pilot for Safeway stores.” I never knew until that moment! And I said, “Ok, great, I am excited for you.” And he said, “No, I’m serious. I want to thank you for changing my life, putting me on a track that I thoroughly enjoy.” 


I thought that was an interesting story. So I emailed this Cathy Free, and said I have a little story about how somebody’s life was changed because of a chance meeting. So she called and took me to lunch. We had lunch at Applebee’s just down here. She said, “Ok, tell me how you got started flying.” “No, no, no. The story is about RT, and how he got started.” “No, no. I want to find out how you got started.” So I told her the glass story. She said, “That is fun. That’s interesting. Now tell me about RT.” 


So both stories came out, and she printed it. I saw it in the paper, then I got an email from RT and he said, “Hey, there’s our story." AOPA (Aircraft Owners and Pilots Association) picked it up and put it on their website as a pilot vignette. So it went viral. It was all over. And I got phone calls from friends that I knew around there who said, Hey, I saw your story, I read your story. Anyway, I kept it, it’s still on my Internet.


But anyway, to follow up on this RT story, he lives in Salt Lake now. He owns a business downtown. It’s a satellite broadcasting type business....But I was teaching flying - I got contacted by Gene Curtis that owns G and B flight service. He called me and he says, “do you know to spin an airplane?” I said, Yah. He said, “Do spins bother you?” No. I like spins. He said, “Ok, I’ve got 6 flight instructors that are scared to death of spins.” I said, there’s no reason to be scared of spins. He said, “Yah, but they’re scaring the students now. Would you take them up and teach them how to do spins again? Because they had to do spins to get their flight instructor certificate. 


KF: This is when you roll the plane?


No, this is when you stall, it loses power and you roll it over, spin. So anyway, the rest is history. So he hired me to teach these instructors and I would take them out. So my name was on the roster of his instructors. 


One day I got a phone call. “Hi, is this Ralph Mitchell?” Yah. “Is this the Ralph Mitchell that used to live in Renton?” I said, “Is this RT?” He said, “Yah! Are you an instructor at Skypark?” Yah. He said, “I need my bi-annual flight review.” Ok, RT! So we went up in a twin engine and I certified him again for his. So we’ve been back and forth together, talking, gone to lunch a few times. 


Well, he bought a share of a twin-engine Duke, which is a pressurized, very high-speed airplane, twin engine, cabin, he has a 10th ownership in it, and I’ve gone up with him in it several times. Anyway, to make a long story short, which I never do, just last week, he rode with me to get me re-certified for my flight instructor. Next week he’s going to ride with one of my students who’s ready to solo as we take them up to a point, then we have another flight instructor ride for what we call a phase check. So his pre-solo phase check is going to be with RT. So we’ve stayed interested and together....


Oh, I was leading up to tell you, he’s kind of phasing out of his business, and he’s got a job flying Learjets for a charter company....He said, “... Not a trip goes by, last week, in fact, we’re on our way to Baltimore, Maryland, and I’m sitting there in a Learjet, 35,000 feet, doing 550 knots and I said, 'Thank you, Ralph Mitchell. Thank you, Ralph Mitchell.'

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Source:

  • From a conversation on [date? I have a transcript with timestamps from this interview, but didn't mark the date of the recording. 2014ish? I'll update the source when I confirm the date.]
  • Read the entire collection of Ralph's flying experiences here.

Top Gun, UFO, and Ralph's Signature Floppy Hat

Ralph wearing his signature hat, here with Ella
in Scotland, October 2014. The Top Gun pin is the
large one on his right; the UFO pin is the circular
one in the middle.
Ralph has a signature floppy hat (Tilley brand) that he always wears (to help protect against melanoma), and the hat is covered in pins, each one with a story. 


Here's a bit of detail about two particular pins:


Top Gun

While visiting Arizona for Ella's high school reunion [10 or 15 years ago?], Ella said to Ralph, "Let's go flying out in the dessert." Of course, Ralph would never pass up an opportunity to fly. However, unbeknownst to Ralph, Ella had previously made arrangements for Ralph with an outfit that offered flying in aerobatic or military planes. (Queue the theme music to the movie "Top Gun".) 


The pilot took him up and said, "I understand you fly. What do you want to do?" Ralph asked if he could do an "inverted test and run." The pilot said, "Take it over! You can't brake the airplane." With Ralph at the controls, he turned the plane over and did this upside down maneuver, in addition to other aerobatics for the next hour. "It was so fun!" His Top Gun pin is a souvenir from that day. 


[Somewhere there's a video of his experience. Once we find it, we'll be sure to post a link to it here. That video will also likely reveal the type of plane he flew, and the name of the outfit.]


UFO

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This stands for United Flying Octogenarians. That's right - to join you have to still be flying as pilot-in-command on or after your 80th birthday. The slogan of the organization is "Where the history of aviation is still flying." Ralph was pretty excited to join the ranks of 1,500 pilots in this club when he turned 80! And he likes to jokingly say to an unsuspecting listener, "Did you know, I'm a member of the UFO?" 


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Questions: 

  • Anyone know the story behind other pins on his hat?
Funny detail:

Source: 

  • From a conversation on 4 December 2020, as well as previous conversations.

Ralph's Favorite Planes to Fly

Photo of a Bonanza on display at the Dairy Queen
in Centerville, Utah. This photo of the photo
taken August 2019.
It's fun to imagine Ralph writing the following letter to Santa:

 

Dear Santa, I've been very good this year. On my wish list for Christmas is a Bonanza, a Gulfstream, and a Hughes 500 helicopter. I could even help deliver presents! And by the way, I'll need a hanger too. Sincerely, Ralph


That letter's not too far off. Ralph shared that if he had all the money in the world, those would be the aircrafts he'd purchase, as those are his favorites. And if nothing else, he'd love to have a picture taken in front of all 3 aircraft together. (Who can we call to arrange that???)


When asked what his favorite airplane is to fly, without hesitating he answers: A V-Tail Bonanza! Why? According to Ralph: If you fly it right, you get the best performance out of it of any airplane.

Not everyone knows how to fly a Bonanza. But Ralph was taught early and was able to perfect his skill. And he related, if you fly it properly, it flies better than any other airplane. 

In fact, he's loved teaching how to fly this aircraft, as it has nuances that are not intuitive as compared to flying planes, and he recalls students laughing when the lightbulb turns on in their heads. 

Aerodynamically, the way the wings and the v-tail are built, if you simply fly it flat, you have to keep one foot on the rudder to hold it otherwise it will sashay back and forth. But if you take it up and push it forward a little bit to get the v-tail in the air - it actually looks like it's pointed down - you can add 10-15 knots to the speed and you can take both feet off the rudders because the tail is up high enough to stabilize the plane. 


Ralph explains some of the nuances of flying his favorite plane,
a Bonanza. Filmed 16 August 2019. (2:27 Min)

What does Ralph like about the Gulfstream? "It's very fast, very comfortable, and pressurized." 

Ralph in front of a Hughes 500. (Year?)


The Hughes 500 helicopter - turbo powered! "It's fast, maneuverable, and just fun to fly!" 


In the video above, Ella added: "He'd rather be in the air than on the ground." No denying that. :D

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Sources:

  • Video filmed 16 August 2019
  • Conversation on 26 October 2019
  • Conversation on 4 December 2020


Read the entire collection of Ralph's flying experiences here.





Church Callings and Sage Advice

Ralph and Ella
July 2016 (the day of this interview)

A few years ago, in July 2016, I was riding in the backseat of Ella and Ralph's sedan, on our way to the Payson Scottish Festival. Among the things we talked about on the way were church callings/responsibilities they've held. This is what they shared that day.

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When Ralph and Ella lived in Oklahoma [years?], Ella had the calling of Stake Primary President. She would travel throughout her stake - which was 165 miles long by 130 wide, covering parts Oklahoma, Arkansas, and Kansas. Ella recalls:


When they [the stake presidency] called me and we talked about the travel [required for the calling], I said, “I don’t mind the travel, as long as I don’t have to travel during a tornado watch!” 


Ralph remembers that many times as he was heading out to work in the morning, she was also on her way to visit a ward or branch. He remembers that at the time there were about 6 wards in the stake and 3 or 4 branches. Sometimes it was 9 or 10 o’clock at night before Ella would return home. In the winter time, Ralph would take a day off and drive Ella and her counselors to their meetings. Ella chimed in: “It’s not like here [in Utah] where you’re just around the corner.” She served in this calling for a little over 1 year. 


One of the most surprising and challenging callings Ralph had was when he was called to be bishop [KF: I think it was the Orchard 3rd Ward in North Salt Lake]. He was 43 years old. He served for 5 years and 1 month. (Not that he was counting!) After that service, he was on the High Council for their stake, then subsequently he was the High Priest Group Leader for their ward. 


A particularly memorable experience in a calling was when they were living in Oklahoma, Ralph was at the stake center for a priesthood meeting (Ralph was executive secretary at the time), when a tornado hit, about 7 pm at night. Ralph was going throughout the building, opening windows in the foyer and classrooms so that as the tornado came through and the air pressure increased, the windows wouldn’t implode. The lights were out and there was no power, and they continued to hold the meeting with flashlights. 


The stake president got up and said, “It’s been suggested that we cancel this meeting and let everyone go home. We feel impressed to continue to hold the meeting and all of our families will be fine.” So they held the meeting. They could hear the tornado roar - it sounded like a freight train!


The next day was Sunday, and Ralph was called by Oklahoma Public Service to fly a helicopter to survey the damage. He recalls:

 

I was up flying the helicopter [He gets a little choked up - “It grabs me even now when I think about it!”]. So I flew over this area, 600 homes in a tract just southwest of the stake center were all wiped out. Nobody was hurt. Nobody was killed. But their homes were damaged. I was flying over in the helicopter and I could see the path of how it hit the ground. It went back south of the stake center, then lifted up, went over the stake center, and hit a block north. 

 

There was a little 7-Eleven store - they called them Get-and-Gos there, a convenience store - it was a block south of the stake center, wiped out. The convenience store was gone. The only thing that was left was a level piece of concrete. [Ella says, “You were protected.” And Ralph chuckles, as if that was a huge understatement. Indeed they were!]

 

What was interesting is that two brothers that I know of said, “The heck with this. We’ve got to go home and take care of our family.” So one guy jumped up and got in his car and headed home. He was one of the ones that lived some distance away. It started raining then - we got torrential rains there. He drove under an underpass and his car died [in the deep] water. So he sat in his car all night under the underpass. He didn’t make it  home. 

 

The other guy got home and loaded up his family and said, “Hey, let’s get out of here. The tornado is coming.” They loaded up their car with food, water, stuff like that. About 15, 20 minutes later, his wife said, “Well, where are we going?” He said, “I don’t know. We’ve just got to get out of this.” They also, their car stalled, and they slept in the car that night. 

 

It taught a lesson to me at least, that when a leader of the stake says, “This is our inspiration, we’re going to hold the meeting. We can’t force anyone to stay.” Everyone who stayed at the meeting made it home and their family was safe. 

 

The tornado hit about 4 miles from our place in Broken Arrow.


In the summer of 2016, Ralph and Ella were in their third year of teaching a teenage Sunday school class together in their ward in Centerville [name of ward?]. They loved those youth and loved being with them each week. I got to join them that Sunday, and I was impressed at how the youth loved to be there too - I think they felt of Ralph and Ella’s care and concern. They were quick to volunteer, they paid close attention, and readily participated in the discussions.


Looking back at their varied church service, what would Ralph and Ella do differently if they knew then what they know now? “Pray more!” Ralph chuckles. That's some sage advice!


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Source: From a conversation with Ralph and Ella on  9 July 2016.


Tasty Traditions: Mashed Potatoes with Horseradish

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A staple at the Mitchell holiday table is always mashed potatoes with horseradish.
Whether it's Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, or anytime mashed potatoes are served, this variation of the classic dish is what Ralph prepares. And they're legendary!

Where did Ralph get the inspiration for this daring side dish? Ralph and Ella first enjoyed it in a restaurant on one of their travels in the United States, then they started experimenting with it at home.

Quite simply, Ralph makes classic mashed potatoes, then dips a spoon into the horseradish, taps it on the rim of the mixing bowl, and blends it all together. 

But here are a couple pro tips, based on our experiences:

Start small, sample, then add more horseradish if desired. And make sure it's all blended in.
Ralph doesn't use a recipe when he prepares his potatoes - he just relies on his cooking experience and intuition. But that makes things exciting sometimes too, such as when too much horseradish is added or it's not fully mixed in. Whooo-weeee! The flavor might be a little overwhelming, but it will certainly clear up your sinuses! (Speaking from experience.)

Warn your guests before they dig in. 
Cousin RM shares a hilarious story of the first time his wife joined the family for Thanksgiving. No one thought to prep her about the potatoes ahead of time. She ate a bite, thought for sure they were spoiled, but was so confused as she looked around at the other guests eating them and not seeming to think twice about them. She didn't learn until after the meal that the flavor was by design.

For those of us who rely on recipes rather than intuition, here are a couple to try:

Combine this with blonde brownies, and you'll be on your way for a classic Mitchell holiday!

Sources:
  • Stories shared by Ralph and Cousin RM on 27 November 2020

Places of Significance: Kemnay, Aberdeenshire, Scotland

Kemnay, Scotland
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Kemnay is a little village 16 miles west of Aberdeen, situated on a bend in the River Don. Ella’s family would ride the bus to this location in the countryside, for picnics or to pick wild brambleberries. On a scrapbook page Ella had made with some photographs taken there in 1939, she described these summer holidays as “blissful summer days.” Ella said, “I loved it out in the country. My mother used to say, ‘Ella needs to marry a farmer.’”(1)

During World War II, in the early 1940s, Ella spent 2 or 3 summers in Kemnay, to keep her out of the city and further from the danger of German air raids. Ella wasn’t sure how her family became acquainted with the host family - she stayed with the Cheyn family (maybe spelled Cheyne?) - but it wasn’t uncommon that families from the city would arrange for their children to stay in the country during the war. Ella remembers that she stayed in an upstairs room of the farmhouse, and she remembers the host family had a son. She would help with farm chores - milk the cow and collect eggs from the chickens.(2)

High Street, Kemnay
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Ella remembers one night during the war, when she and her host family watched what seemed like fireworks in the sky, but it was really probably the British artillery on the ground firing toward German bombers overhead. "It's still so bright in my memory...the flashing." She wasn't worried for her own welfare; she was far enough out in the country that the planes didn't bother to go there. But she was worried about her parents and sister back in Aberdeen (her sister was in a hospital for treatment of tuberculosis at that time).(3)


Kemnay, Scotland
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Ella enjoyed her summers in the countryside, but she remembers anxiously waiting for her mother at the end of one summer, excited to see her coming down the lane after arriving by bus.

Add to our to-do list on our next trip to Aberdeen: Having a picnic in Kemnay.

These family photographs show George and Katherine (Kate) with 
their children Ina and Ella, as well as George's sister 
Madgie (or Madge) and an unnamed family friend. The bottom left
photo also shows "farmers children" - perhaps this was the family that
Ella would later stay with in Kemnay during the war? Did they have
a relationship prior to the war?

Sources: 
  1. From a conversation with Ella on 13 January 2017
  2. From a conversation with Ella on 16 January 2019
  3. From a conversation with Ella on 30 May 2014

"That's Our Song" - No Other Love by Jo Stafford

When Ralph and Ella were married in March 1953, they were sure to include "their song" in the wedding reception festivities. Ella's friend Faye sang "No Other Love" by Jo Stafford. And that's still Ralph and Ella's song today!


On 22 November 2018, Thanksgiving Day, family was gathered at Ralph and Ella's home for a meal and family time. While mingling after the food, Ralph opened up the record player (a credenza-type unit in their living room, speakers built into the sides) and played some of their favorite LPs, including this song.


Ralph and Ella, holding an LP record of their song.
22 November 2018, at their home.


Ella says, "That's our song!" 
22 November 2018, at their home. (1:15 min)


Read more about the festivities of Ralph and Ella's wedding day, here.

Ella Singing the Greyfriar's Bobby Theme Song

Ella and Ralph at the grave of John Gray, 
Edinburgh Scotland - September 2006
Oh how Ella loves the story of the loyal Skye Terrier, Bobby, the dog of John Gray, a night watchman for the Edinburgh City Police.
Bobby was always by his master's side, and when his master died of tuberculosis, the wee dog remained by his side, guarding and sleeping on Gray's grave for 14 years. Upon Bobby's passing, he was buried not far from his master, both in Greyfriar's Cemetery in Edinburgh.

Disney made a movie based on this true story, released in 1961, and Ella loves to sign the tune. She has a record of the soundtrack, and on special occasions she and Ralph open the record player (built into a credenza/sideboard) and we sing along.

On their many trips to Scotland, Ella and Ralph would visit this spot in Edinburgh. There's a statue dedicated to Bobby, a pub immediately behind called "Bobby's Bar," and immediately behind that is Greyfriar's Cemetery where you can visit the graves of John Gray and Bobby.

You can read more about the heart-warming, true story here

Bobby's Bar and the statue to wee Bobby in Edinburgh
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Ella singing the chorus of Greyfriar's Bobby from the 
1961 Disney film. Filmed 30 April 2017 at her home. (0:30 min)


Thanksgiving Day 2018 - An occasion to pull out the old records and 
sing along to the Greyfriar's Bobby soundtrack. 
Filmed 22 November 2018 at Ella and Ralph's home. (1:30 min)

Ella and Her Host of Golden Daffodils

Ella has a little patch of miniature daffodils in her patio garden ("daffodillies" as she likes to call them) that come up every spring. Originally a small flower pot with a few bulbs already blooming that she bought at the grocery store, once the blooms had died she planted the bulbs in her yard. The bulbs have since multiplied over the years in that corner of her garden - a miniature representation of the scene in Dr. Zhivago that she loves.


Ella would often recite the poem “I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud” by William Wordsworth, specifically the line “When all at once I saw a crowd,/ A host, of golden daffodils.” She had memorized this poem as a school girl, and the sight of daffodils would bring those words to mind. 


On a trip to Scotland in May 2017 with Ella and Ralph, we could see thousands of daffodils in green patches beside the road. The blooms had just faded, but based on the amount of green leaves still present, we could imagine how stunning the scene was. It was a great opportunity to see if Ella could still recall lines to the poem. 


Ella reciting William Wordsworth - May 2017, Aberdeen Scotland
(0:32 min)


I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud 

By William Wordsworth


I wandered lonely as a cloud

That floats on high o'er vales and hills,

When all at once I saw a crowd,

A host, of golden daffodils;

Beside the lake, beneath the trees,

Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.


Continuous as the stars that shine

And twinkle on the milky way,

They stretched in never-ending line

Along the margin of a bay:

Ten thousand saw I at a glance,

Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.


The waves beside them danced; but they

Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:

A poet could not but be gay,

In such a jocund company:

I gazed—and gazed—but little thought

What wealth the show to me had brought:


For oft, when on my couch I lie

In vacant or in pensive mood,

They flash upon that inward eye

Which is the bliss of solitude;

And then my heart with pleasure fills,

And dances with the daffodils.


Ina Findlay Slade's Memories of Aberdeen and the Church during WWII

Ina Findlay, Betty Sutherland, 
Helen Edwards (or Helen
then Betty?), and Kate Findlay
The following is a memory posted to the page for Charlesina Findlay Slade (1928-2015) on FamilySearch, written by Charlesina herself. Charlesina, most often called Ina, is Ella's sister.


See also these previous, related posts:


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When I was 11 years old, there was excitement in our branch in Aberdeen, Scotland. It was September 1939 and the Millennial Chorus was in Aberdeen for one week. This chorus was made up of missionaries touring the mission, giving concerts.


At this time, 1939, the Aberdeen Branch was the northernmost branch in the British Mission. It was exciting to an 11 year old to be around that many missionaries at one time. They had concerts booked all week and at the end of the week there was to be a special treat. The mission president, Hugh B. Brown, would also be in Aberdeen. A room in the Music Hall had been reserved and President Brown would speak and the Millennial Chorus sing. But, alas, events in Europe were to interfere with these plans. September 3, 1939, Britain declared war on Germany. This meant Pres. Brown could not leave London. Plans and preparations had to be made for all missionaries to leave Britain and return to the U.S. This was a sad time. The chorus was advised by President Brown to finish their appointments, and go ahead and give the concert at the Music Hall. Since Pres. Brown would not be there, they had to fill in that time and sing twice as long, then they were to report to London. The withdrawal of the missionaries brought changes in the leadership of some of the branches. My father was made Branch President and mother the Relief Society President. It was a small branch to begin with, but with the withdrawal of the missionaries, this was a test of the faith of the members, and many fell away. During the six years of war, Aberdeen, one of the four branches in Scotland, was the only branch to remain open all through the war years, with only eleven of us usually in attendance at meetings; 5 adults and 6 children. One family evacuated to the country to get away from the air raids. Aberdeen is on the northeast coast of Scotland on the same latitude as southern Norway. The German planes had but a short hop, skip and jump from Norway to Aberdeen, and it was easy to find as it stood between two rivers. Radar had not been perfected yet and as a result, the German planes could sneak in and drop their bombs before the air raid siren blew. It was very frightening, hearing the thud of the bombs, and wondering where the next one would land. During the worst raid, a bomb was dropped just two streets away from where we lived. One member had her apartment damaged in one raid. The members did not have telephones, so Mother, as Relief Society president, had to rely on inspiration to know which sister she needed to visit. One morning after one raid, she felt the need to check on Sister Hendry. When she got to her street, it was blocked and a policeman on guard said a bomb had dropped there. The people had been taken to a Red Cross facility, and Mother found her. She was able to stay temporarily with another member until other arrangements could be made. With only six children in the branch, it was difficult to have Primary or Mutual. The missionaries had been led to my parents in 1930, but it was two years before they were baptized in the River Dee. I was only four years old then but my sister and myself were also baptized in the River Dee a few years later. The baptisms took place at a secluded place along the river. It was not until 1948 that Father came to Arizona and the rest of us in 1949. The faith and testimony of the adults in the branch showed us the way and kept us straight. Those members were: My parents, George and Katherine Findlay Brother Smart Sisters Eliza Edwards and Mary Hendry (the children) Betty Sutherland Houston Ronald Sutherland Helen Sutherland Helen Edwards Ella Findlay Mitchell Ina Findlay Slade To all of them I will be eternally grateful for faith in every footstep.

Ralph and Ella: Early Marriage Years

 This post is a continuation of stories shared in these previous posts:

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After Ralph and Ella were married in Mesa, Arizona, on March 5, 1953, they returned to Wilmington, CA, where Ralph had been living with his parents during their engagement. 


Their first apartment was located at 1305 ¼ N Marine Ave, Wilmington, where they lived for about the first year of their marriage. It was the second unit from the end in a row of apartments in a small complex. And their unit was tiny - smaller even than a studio apartment. There was a living room, a dining room, and a little kitchenette, a bathroom, and a pull-down bed in the hallway that rotated out on a hinge and pulled out into the living room. They paid $47.50/month. 


1305 1/4 N Marine Ave, Wilmington, CA, which is the unit the second one in from
the street, in the center of the frame. This is whereRalph and Ella lived their first year
of marriage and to which they brought their baby twins home.
Photo taken by KF, September 2018.

Soon after they were married, Ella became pregnant, due that coming December. 


Six months before the due date, Ralph and Ella put a baby crib and rocking chair on layaway at a local furniture store. They put the crib in the corner of the little dining room. 


When they were first married, Ralph was working for a company making submarine nets, but before the twins were born he changed jobs to work at Ford Motor Company (from 1953 to 1956), putting cars together on the assembly line, and he was going to school at night (Ralph initially studied architecture at Los Angeles Harbor Junior College, for 1 year, then studied radio and television theory and repair).


About six months into the pregnancy, Ralph joked with the doctor that Ella was going to have twins, and the doctor simply shrugged his shoulders. (This was before the early ultrasounds of today). But Ralph kept telling him and kept telling him. Toward the end of her pregnancy, Ella started to have complications from swelling ankles, so the doctor sent them to a specialist. This was on a Monday. The specialist then proceeded to take an x-ray (again, this was before ultrasounds) and then came the report: He saw two babies on the x-ray, and possibly the rib-cage of a third baby! They didn’t know until they were born whether there were going to be twins or triplets! 


They were sent to the hospital that night, and the babies - twins! - were born on Thursday. Baby Boy came first at 6 pounds 1 ounce, and Baby Girl came second, at 4 pounds 11 ounces. The babies were full-term, healthy, and didn’t need incubators or the ICU. And at this time, the husbands weren’t present in the delivery room, so Ralph waited in the husband’s waiting room until after the babies were born. 


Congratulations! It's twins!
Here are BE and BF while at the hospital.

When they were trying to think of baby names when Ella was pregnant, they considered naming a boy SN. But when the twins came, they looked at their little boy and said, hmmm...that’s not SN, but we have SN coming. So back to square one. But they decided to take Ella’s middle name of B, and Ralph’s middle name of E, and name their son BE - over the protest of one of the nurses who wanted to name the babies Kenneth and Kathy. Hah!  . They wanted a girl’s name that would match their son’s name, so they chose B as a first name (a very Scottish name), and Ralph came up with F as a middle name (Ralph said: “And Ella didn’t complain too much. She said, ‘That’s a cute name. Where’d you get it?’” It’s from the Disney movie Bambi, the name of his girlfriend.) So that was it: BE and BF.  


Ralph and Ella brought their babies home to their little apartment after a week in the hospital, and they shared the crib in the corner of the living room - BF in one end and BE in the other. 


While the twins were little, Ralph and Ella transported them around in a little wicker “Moses” bassinet. Similar to how they slept in the crib, the babies were small enough that one could be on each end. 


A wicker Moses basket, similar to what Ralph and Ella used for their twins.
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A funny experience with that: Soon after the twins were born, Ralph and Ella took their babies to visit Mary Johnson, the wife of Ralph’s step-brother Earl. Some of Mary’s friends were there as well, and Mary said, “Here’s Ralph and Ella and their new babies.” One friend apparently didn’t catch that Mary said “babies,” plural, and the friend said, “Awww...that’s cute.” Then she turned and looked and saw a head at the other end of the basket, and Ralph thought she might faint at the sight of a two-headed baby!


This was also a time before car seats for infants were standard (or if they were even available), so when they needed to drive somewhere, they would either have the twins in their wicker basket on the floor of the backseat of their 1939 Pontiac Coupe (the jump seats would fold up) or hold them on their lap while riding in the car. 


A 1939 Pontiac Coupe, in blue, similar to what Ralph and Ella owned.
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This was also close to Christmas, and with finances and space being tight, Ralph and Ella found a small, live Christmas tree, 2-feet tall, for 50 cents, that they decorated with paper ornaments and tinsel. 


Ralph with the infant twins.
December 1953

[Also the story of how Ralph went flying when the babies were tiny, and didn’t tell Ella where he had gone. Yikes! He's still paying for that one!]


Ella with one of the babes.
December 1953

When their family was young, Ralph and Ella would often hop in the car and head to the beach after Ralph got home from work, if even for a half hour before dinner, for a relaxing time to walk barefoot and play in the sand. Some favorite beaches were Redondo Beach and Sunset Beach. 


Ralph with the twins at the beach.


The twins with Ella's parents, George and Kate Findlay, 
at their subsequent home at 122 Denni Ave, Wilmington, CA.


Reflecting on these experiences, Ralph confesses: “We’ve had a great life. We’ve been blessed with a wonderful, wonderful family.”


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From phone conversations with Ralph and Ella:

  • 9 February 2014

  • 13 January 2015

  • 22 March 2015

  • 7 November 2020



Remembering Baby Kathy

Newborn Baby Kathy
In September 2018, knowing that I would be solo in Los Angeles with some extra time on my hands 
(from the same trip as this post when I visited the grave of Ralph's older brother, Johnny), I determined there was no better time to visit the resting place of Ralph and Ella's 4th child, 
Katherine Juanita Mitchell. She was affectionately known as "Kathy."

Little Kathy was born on October 29, 1958, and she was named after both of her grandmothers: "Katherine" being Ella's mother and "Juanita" being Ralph's. She was beloved! Tragically, she passed away from pneumonia at just almost 7 weeks old, on December 15, 1958.

Kathy is buried at Green Hills Memorial Park in Rancho Palos Verdes, California.(1) At the time of Kathy's death, Ralph, Ella, their other 3 young children were living in Long Beach, California. 

Green Hills Memorial Park

I've always felt a special connection to Kathy, as I was named after her, and mom BR has a closeness to her as well. 

Kathy's Birth Announcement

Ella's Handwriting



Prior to arriving at the cemetery, I bought flowers to lay at the grave - a bouquet of white Baby's Breath. I stopped at the florist onsite to purchase white ribbon to tie it with. 

I had previously made an appointment with an attendant at the office, who had maps prepared for me and escorted me to the gravesite. I was so appreciative as it's quite a large cemetery. 

Little Kathy is buried in a special section of the cemetery, on a hill overlooking the surrounding area, in a heart-shaped area designated as "Baby Land." Sweet, but also heart breaking, this section is dedicated for little children. As I walked along searching for Kathy's grave, I saw so many plaques for little tiny infants. My heart ached for all the families. 

My escort to the plot brought spray cleaners and cloth with him, with which he polished the grave. It felt like an honor to be able to do so. And after my escort left, I then sat there beside the grave, sitting still. I was touched by the beauty of this location. I was saddened that family no longer lives close to this location to visit, though Mom BR remembers visiting the grave while they still lived in southern California.






Also buried in this cemetery is Ralph's step-brother, Lester Earl Johnson, and his wife Mary Ellen Johnson. They are buried not far from Kathy, so we took the chance to polish their stone as well. 





Map of Green Hills Memorial Park. Baby Land and Summit Lawn highlighted.




Location of Baby Kathy's grave - Plot 92, Grave C in Babyland


Location of Lester Earl Johnson's grave - Plot 490, Grave B

Sources:
  1. Green Hills Memorial is located at 27501 South Western Avenue, Rancho Palos Verdes, CA. Kathy is buried in "Baby Land," Plot 92, Grave C.