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Happy 70th Anniversary, Ralph and Ella!

Ralph and Ella, cutting their wedding cake.
March 5 marks 70 years since Ralph and Ella's wedding in 1953! 


If they were here to celebrate with us, I imagine they would share the sweet story of how they met and their first date, how Ella gave Ralph quite a scare when he proposed, details of their wedding day and reception, and I hope that they would play "their song" on their record player while we ate bowls of ice cream in their Desert Rose china (They received this china for their wedding, displayed it in their china cabinet, and frequently used it throughout their lives.)


Here are some mementos from their special day:




Newspaper article in the Mesa Tribune,
dated 8 July 1952, announcing Ralph and Ella's engagement.


Their reception invitation



On the grounds of the Mesa Arizona LDS temple.



On the grounds of the Mesa Arizona LDS temple.


The beautiful couple!







Cutting the cake.



Admiring wedding gifts, including their Desert Rose china.



Left to right: Friend and bridesmaid Joyce Rogers,
Ella as the bride, sister and maid of honor Ina Findlay.


Bridesmaid Joyce Rogers and maid of honor
(and sister) Ina Findlay.



The Wedding party, left to right: George and Kate Findlay (Ella's parents),
Joyce Rogers (friend and bridesmaid), Ina Findlay (Ella's sister and maid of honor),
Ella, Ralph, Lee Johnson (best man), Juanita and Lester Johnson (Ralph's mother and stepfather).



Tribute poem written by friend Elva Brown, 
shared at Ralph and Ella's reception. 



Tribute poem written by friend Elva Brown, 
shared at Ralph and Ella's reception. 



Newspaper article from the Mesa Tribune,
sharing highlights from Ralph and Ella's special day.




Born 28 Days Apart - Happy Birthday Ralph and Ella!

29 January 2017. Happy 83rd!
Ralph and Ella reasoned that they must have made a pact in heaven before they were born, that
they were going to meet on earth.
With Ralph being born first in Safford, Arizona, and Ella born on the other side of the world 28 days later in Aberdeen, Scotland, they surmise that their kids and grandkids in heaven said, “Oh no! How are we going to get these guys together!” 


Here they are in 2017 for a joint birthday celebration, surrounded by family (kids, grandkids, and greatgrands), commemorating their 83rd birthdays.





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Read more about when Ralph and Ella first met, here

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Sources:

  • Photos and video from KF's personal collection, 29 January 2017. Taken at the home of SM and LM in San Ramon, CA.
  • Quotes taken from a phone conversation recorded 13 January 2015.
  • From an interview Ralph and Ella on 9 February 2014 recorded at their home in Centerville, UT.

Evidence of the Stories They Told and Lives Well Lived

Ralph with a model airplane, late 1940s.
In February 2021, over the course of several cold and dreary days, I gathered with SM and LM and their children at Ralph and Ella's home in Centerville, Utah. We were there to help in the continued effort to sort and find new homes for Ralph and Ella's belongings and mementos, as the family was preparing their home for sale. 

I brought my scanner as a carryon, and set up shop in Ralph and Ella's office. We organized photos and documents, and I scanned and scanned and scanned for days (and twice all night), creating digital versions of these priceless treasures, to be able to document and share these files with the broader family.


The days I spent there were so sacred, to be granted a peak into what Ralph and Ella saved, what was most important to them, what they hung on to, and what they wanted to remember. Each item made a statement about what they valued. 


But what touched my heart most was to find concrete evidence of the stories that Ralph and Ella told. The stories were already real, but these relics brought them to life.


Here are a few examples:







A range that Ralph purchased from his uncle Ray's shop, Inglish Electric. 
Paid in 30 monthly payments of $8.56.


View of Mesa, AZ, from the air, of Rendezvous Park
(coincidentally, where Ralph and Ella met)


This was labeled on the back, "My hobby."

  • The huge family tree that Kate Findlay (Ella's mother) had created. She was ahead of her time with her genealogical research! This chart starts with George and Kate Findlay (born in 1903 and 1904, respectively), going back I'm not sure how many generations, but the earliest date listed is 1080 AD. (See a video of it here.)


Kate Findlay's handwritten family tree.
For context, this chart measures about 5-feet wide and dates back to 1080 AD.



Reclining against the handle bars.

On two wheels!






  • Ella's school notebooks and study guides from Scotland, while a student at the Aberdeen Central S. S. School as an early teenager. Ella talked about how when she emigrated at age 15, she was ahead of the schooling standards for the same grade in America. But the Scots really set the bar high for their students! 

Ella's notebook for English exercises, filled with essay she wrote
on various prompts.

An essay Ella wrote about a week-long school camp to Kemnay, Scotland.
(Other stories and photos of Ella's family in Kemnay, here.)


Note how spelling and grammar were corrected, and then Ella had to 
rewrite the corrected words at the end of her essay.


Ella's English and Arithmetic exam book





"Mental Arithmetic" - I wonder whether this was a focus in the US curriculum for this age
in the late 1940s. Ella was really good at doing mathematic calculations in her head.


  • Files and files and files of family history work, for both Ella and Ralph's sides. 



Just a sampling of the many files of family history work
that Ralph and Ella saved. 


  • Sweet correspondence with loved ones far away - grandparents, cousins, friends, and even Ma Pat, the sweet woman who lived upstairs from the Findlays on Prospect Terrace in Aberdeen, and who assisted in Ella's birth.




A letter from Ma Pat to Ella, 15 January 1952

  • Every card, note, photo - it seems like that they ever received - saved in shoeboxes and plastic bins. Including children's art projects, letters to Santa, notes from children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren.



A note to the Easter Bunny,
from Ralph and Ella's daughter BR.


These, and many more artifacts, are physical testaments -- evidence of the stories they told and lives well lived. (May I live my life as well, and with the evidence to show for it.)


Come, Come, Ye Saints

A wallhanging quilt I made for the
sesquicentennial (150 years) celebration
of the Mormon pioneers first arriving in the
Salt Lake valley in 1847 (the top corner
squares). Also a tribute to Ella's family who
emigrated from Scotland to America in 1949
(the bottom corner squares). 
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When we talk about pioneers, we typically think of covered wagons and handcarts and trekking west across the American frontier. But I think of Ella and her parents, pioneers who left their homeland and family to settle in an unknown-to-them territory. 


Ella LOVED Pioneer Day, July 24, which commemorates the arrival of the first Mormon pioneers to the Salt Lake Valley in 1847. Her love for pioneers started in her youth, as her family would gather together around their piano and sing Come, Come, Ye Saints, and they would hope, and dream, and plan for the day when they would join with other members of their faith in America. 


Here are some thoughts that Ella shared in a talk she gave to her church congregation in Long Beach, California, in the 1960s. See the full scan of her original talk, below. 


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My parents joined the church before I was born and I think the missionaries must have had a tough time with them as it took them a year before they accepted the gospel and were ready for baptism.


At that time it was the hopes and goals of all [Latter-day] Saints to emigrate to Zion and so my parents started saving and in 1939 the ball got rolling for us to come to this country. But as you know the world was very unsettled at that time and Britain declared war in September of 1939, and our hopes were dashed. One of the missionaries who helped convert my parents was to be our sponsor and he offered to take care of my sister and I until our parents could join us after the war -- as they had Red Cross ships sailing to America with children, but my parents declined the offer and I am so happy about that as I was only 5 years old at the time and I wouldn't have remembered Scotland or appreciated it as I do today. 


Once war was declared all missionaries were called home. My father was made Branch President and during all of the war we only had two active families, [but] we held Sacrament meeting every Sunday evening and my father and the other Priesthood holder would take turns conducting, blessing and passing of the Sacrament and giving talks. 


We feel that we were blessed greatly, because although bombs dropped close to us and bullets hit our house no harm came to us or the other members of the branch. My father worked in the shipyards and had many close call[s] both from bombs and having to come off the ships and ride his bicycle home often late at night in complete darkness as we had total blackouts, and in Scotland the nights in the wintertime are very, very dark. But as a child I can truthfully say that I felt my parents trust in the Lord and never felt fear and knew that we were in His keeping. 


During the latter part of the war my mother started working diligently on her genealogy and was able to collect a great deal of names and was able to even get into [m]onasteries where a great deal of records are kept and [up to] that time had been inaccessible. So having to stay behind in 1939 had indeed been in blessing in disguise. 


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The years went by and our thought once again turned to Zion. My mother played the piano and her favorite [song] was Come, Come, Ye Saints --- and she would gather us around the piano and say, "[Come on learn this son[g] as we can't go to America if we aren't able to sing this.["] I guess she thought it was a [p]assword to get in, but sincerely it is a very special song for me, although my parents were not early pioneers, they did have to give up everything they had to come to this country and start [over] which isn't exactly the easiest task when you're in your forties. 


So in 1949 our plans gelled once again, many letters were sent back and forth. Our visas and passports were procured after having medicals and interviews with the American Consul. 


On Friday, May 13, 1949, we sailed from our homeland and loved ones to a new Frontier. [A] land full of dreams and expectations, and we were not disappointed as life had been good to us and my parents have been repaid many times over for their faith in the Lord. 


I want to say how thankful I am for the missionaries who brought the Gospel to my parents and how doubly thankful I am that I can claim a double heritage, Scottish by birth and American by choice. Brothers and Sisters let us be thankful for this promised land and for our precious freedom that we can worship and live as we choose. 


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Although I have grown up as and am an actively practicing Mormon, I am in awe, and humbled, by the sacrifices our ancestors made, to more fully live what they believe. 


Selling virtually all that they owned and traveling essentially with the clothes on their back, they waved goodbye to family as they boarded the train that took them to the ship harbor. Grandma was now 15 years old. The journey was so expensive and they had saved for so many years, they didn’t know if they’d ever return to their homeland. These were one-way tickets. 


America didn’t necessarily offer them greener pastures, either literally (they settled in Arizona, after all) or figuratively: It’s no small task to start a new life from scratch. And they were sometimes ridiculed for their accent, and treated as second class citizens. 


Why did they do all this? I think about this often. The conclusion that I’ve come to is that I believe they had a vision of the future, of how their sacrifices would benefit generations to come. We are now standing on their shoulders.


We have that same blood coursing through our veins. And we can tap into that same strength and determination. We too can trust in God, and that he has a plan for our lives and he will direct us as we seek to know that plan. We can have courage in the face of hardships, as we ourselves face oceans and continents that separate us from our final destinations, and as we may sometimes find ourselves as strangers in a strange land. 


We too can do great things, GREAT THINGS, that will influence, for good, generations to come. 


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See also these related posts:

Tasty Traditions: Favorites from Ella's Recipe Box

There are a handful of recipes that Ella is known for - her signature dishes - that were often present at family gatherings or holidays. Last December, several of us gathered around the small island in Ralph and Ella's kitchen while we looked through Ella's recipe box, laughing and remembering occasions when some of these dishes were served. And we chuckled when we came to the recipe for Salmon Party Ball, as there were multiple copies of it. We assume it was a crowd pleaser and she must have frequently been asked for the recipe!


Below are photos of her original recipe cards for blonde brownies, carrot cake, hard candy, salmon party ball, Scotch broth (soup), Scottish shortbread, and vanilla tablet. Bon appetite!



Blonde Brownies
(please save me a chewy edge piece)



Carrot Cake


Hard Candy
(A Christmas favorite, often anise flavored)


Salmon Party Ball


Scotch Broth


Scottish Shortbread



Vanilla Tablet